Archive for From the Editor
Every journey begins with a small step, a wise person once said. But even with patience, you can’t get from here to there without knowing where you’re going. So I’ve been asking myself, what exactly it is that I’m trying to accomplish with this blog?
One thing is to start a conversation aimed at bringing about better and more humane treatment for people with prostate cancer and their loved ones. I hope to do this by example, writing passionately and compassionately, and especially with humor.
I have also gathered a lot of useful information about prostate cancer in the past year, from patients and from my own research, especially in the area of erectile dysfunction. So there will be a lot of substantive stuff as well.
All people of good will are encouraged to participate.
Hello Again,Those of you who are not at a picnic, you have company. My dear husband (“DH”) is working all day. We are not in comfortable middle-age, as we should be. Something went wrong. We have to work for dear life. I feel sorry for DH: A man is not a man without a grill, maybe even more so without a hose. Especially if you’re from the heartland — barbecuing (and gardening) is in your blood. We used to keep a grill on our roof 11 stories above Manhattan, as well as a spacious container garden. 20 rosebushes, maybe. And I’ll never forget how lovingly he tended those plants.I am calling this day Co-Dependence Day, because I am reminded that if I want to keep on doing this blog, which I do, I will have to make friends with the computer. Right now, every time I want to download something, I order DH over — he’s the “downloader”. I like having him nearby. But supposing he’s not here one day . . . Block that thought. I am resistant because it’s been hard enough for me to learn PC language. Have had enough of foreign tongues.But I must add that if the worst *should* happen, DH has only *himself* to blame: A couple of months ago he showed me his NY state tax return, where he had checked the box for “I want to donate to Prostate Cancer”. But then I saw that he had given the same amount to “Save Our Wildlife”. He’s got to get his priorities straight! I imagine a day when there will be a whale with a big smile on his face, and DH will be . . . where?? His life is worth a lot more to me than some whale’s. And the same goes for all of you!
I am happy to be here. No, thrilled. No, awestruck. I have never blogged before, so I feel like I’m in the wilderness without a map. But maybe I’ve blogged without knowing it.
Am staring at the screen, uncomprehending: “Post Slug”?? What’s that? “Slug” = ”Worm”. Isn’t a worm a kind of virus? Maybe something you send to a poster you don’t like?
Yesterday, I got a nice note from somebody. It said, “I agree with you about Midwesterners” (good), but I don’t want to post this publicly because of the flamers. Flamers. I have a vague idea of what that is, but I don’t pay them any mind. Who cares what the flamers think? That’s what’s good about being a relative newbie. You post whatever is Appropriate, as well as whatever is Inappropriate. You don’t have the wisdom to know the difference.
I will tell you all more about myself, but I’m not sure how much and how fast; maybe in driblets. That’s because I am afraid that if I unmask myself, I will become self-conscious and it will interfere with my writing. Also: I don’t have the house with the white picket fence, the perfect American family, so why say anything? (What is a typical ”American family” anyway?)
Many of you may know my name from my posts in other forums, and if you do, I hope it brings up a pleasant, rather than a foul, odor. What I do know is that I *care about* everybody in the PC club, including the one person I really don’t *care for*. That’s because we are all huddled here together, standing under one big, karmic roof.
And the guy I don’t like? Well, even he has some endearing traits. But he is such a self-righteous prig, he thinks anybody who buys Viagra overseas should be put in jail. Lawbreakers are lawbreakers.
Do we have any Supreme Court justices here? Constitutional lawyers? Ethicists?
Yesterday, I was at the local market, Fairway, when I came across some “holiday” vanilla layer cakes. These were picture-perfect renditions of July 4th themes: fireworks exploding, a bald eagle and an American Flag. I wanted to get the last one, but suddenly it occurred to me: Is is OK to eat the flag? Have they ruled upon that, or is this a case of first impression?
Absurd, isn’t it? Just like all of of life with PC.